Introversion is an often misunderstood term. Because people relate it so much to shyness. It actually doesn’t go by a “one size fits all” definition. As it can be categorized into four different types. The four types of introverts can be vaguely described by the traits: Social. thinking, anxious, and anxious restrained.

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Social Introverts: The belief that social introverts dislike socialization is false. Rather, they prefer to socialize in small groups of people they feel compatible with and comfortable around. Such as close friends or their family circle. Thus, they are not exactly shy or reserved.

Thinking Introverts: These are people who remain introverts in their thinking process causing them to be more thoughtful and self-reflective. For instance, they can get lost in their own dream world. Drowned in creativity and imagination.

Anxious Introverts: Anxious introverts prefer to be alone because they feel uncomfortable or unsuitable during social gatherings as they’re not…


Seeing what we get from our habits helps us understand them at a deeper level to know it in our bones so we don’t have to force ourselves to hold back or restrain ourselves from behavior.

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When I was first learning to meditate, the instruction was to simply pay attention to my breath, and when my mind wandered, to bring it backSounded simple enough. Yet I’d sit on these silent retreats, sweating through T-shirts in the middle of winter. I’d take naps every chance I got because it was really hard work. Actually, it was exhausting. The instruction was simple enough but I was missing something really important. So why is it so hard to pay attention? Studies show that even when we’re really trying to pay attention to something, like maybe this article, at some…


Necessary, but more importantly, there is a simple rule that you can follow to ensure that your opportunities for employment and success in your career continue to be plentiful, even as automation tech improves and competition for jobs heats up.

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As the podcaster Tim Harford once put it, “Automation reshapes the workplace in ways much subtler than a robot took my job.” Automation can also lead to the creation of jobs that involve more creativity and more strategic thinking, both of which humans are pretty good at. But that also leads us to a conclusion. If you want to succeed in an automation-driven future, then you must keep learning. You have to maximize your ability to think creatively, and you have to become adept at working with these new tools and systems. And it’s not just automation driving this need…


We all know you should take a sick day or a mental health day or even a personal day. But a financial day is just as important. You deserve to take time to get your life in order when you aren’t on the edge and under pressure.

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I’ve shared ways that you can change your environment so you can spend less and save more. But the secret ingredient for each tip has been time: calling your credit card company to change your interest rate takes time; deleting an app of your phone takes time. And if you haven’t had time to put these changes into action, this is your chance. Mark a day on your calendar right now to devote to reorganizing your finances. Really commit to this day and make that day as productive as possible. …


Emotion. It’s sometimes referred to as the spirit or the breath of life. It prescribes our actions and colors in our world. The one who can master the emotions can master actions, and the one who masters actions is the master of all future realities.

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Today we look at the stories of 2 different men, 2 different world views, 2 different goals, and, ultimately, 2 different paths.

This is Alexander. He believes that there are two kinds of people in the world: the conquerors and the conquered. If you want to be great, you have to become a conqueror. It’s a dog eat dog world, and only the fit survive. You have to determine who will conquer with you and whom you must conquer. Alexander read a lot as a kid. He fell in love with Greek heroes who displayed the highest virtues: courage and…


In the modern world, under the ideology of ‘Romanticism,’ you’re meant above all, to Trust Your Feelings!

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Love is a mutual ecstasy at finding a beautiful person, inside and out, with the rare capacity, to make us happy. The romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagined that it would bring to an end the sort of unhappy relationships that resulted from the old ways of finding a partner; the arranged marriage! The only problem is that this call for us to trust our instincts has very often proved to be a disaster of its own. Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in night-clubs, or train stations; at parties or on websites…


#2: Asexuals could crave relationships, just without the sexual element.

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Before we begin, I would like to note that everyone expresses their sexual orientation differently. Some may identify with all or some of the signs I mentioned. Others may relate to a few or none that I've listed. Our list is not definitive but is only some of the key aspects I’ve chosen. Are you struggling with your sexual identity? Do you think you may be asexual? Trying to figure out what your sexual orientation may be daunting but this listicle can help.

Number one: The lack of sexual attraction

Are your romantic relationships based on sexual attraction? Asexuality refers to a lack of or low level…


I remember pre-adulthood when the number of friends a person had almost determined their self-worth. Or at the very least it felt like it. Like, the more invites you got to go places and stuff like that… the better off you were. And the need for it almost created this desperation — this desperation to belong…

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But I guess when you grow older, at least for me, I realized that persons worth have nothing to do with the number of people they’re surrounded with, or who they’re surrounded with, or how many times a week they hang out with friends. It has nothing to do with anyone else at all. While others may help boost and re-assure you — your sense of self-worth has everything to do with you. And I think realizing that, is one of the most liberating things, because you stop seeking validation externally (which can be…


This is a topic I don’t see a lot of people talk about on the Internet. This is hard for me to talk about because this experience had such an impact on me. You know, I went through a dark period in my life. Because of what happened it’s a really complicated story. It’s not black and white. But again, if I can help somebody out there from sharing these sorts of experiences then it’s all worth it to me.

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Some background first a little over a couple of years ago, I moved to Argentina to live with a host family of four for three months. It was an au pair kind of situation where I would help out for 15 hours a week teaching English taking care of the kids in exchange for food a place to live and sleep and the rest of my time free. From my point of view, I’m more than fulfilled my obligations, but I think secretly they wanted me to speak English all the time. But unfortunately, I was there to study Spanish…


There’s this pretty well-known quote that gets thrown around a lot and it’s often attributed to Albert Einstein and it goes. “If you can’t explain it simply, then you don’t understand it well enough”…

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Now whether or not Einstein was the person who actually said this, let’s be real he probably wasn’t, it’s still really insightful, and reversing it reveals a pretty powerful piece of study advice. “ If you don’t understand something well…explain it”. I want to dig deeper into that idea and share with you a step-by-step process for doing this, which has been called the Feynman Technique. This technique is named after the physicist who was, in his own right, a great scientist. In fact, back in 1965, he won a Nobel Prize for his work in quantum electrodynamics, which is…

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