In the modern world, under the ideology of ‘Romanticism,’ you’re meant above all, to Trust Your Feelings!
Love is a mutual ecstasy at finding a beautiful person, inside and out, with the rare capacity, to make us happy. The romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagined that it would bring to an end the sort of unhappy relationships that resulted from the old ways of finding a partner; the arranged marriage! The only problem is that this call for us to trust our instincts has very often proved to be a disaster of its own. Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in night-clubs, or train stations; at parties or on websites…
#2: Asexuals could crave relationships, just without the sexual element.
Before we begin, I would like to note that everyone expresses their sexual orientation differently. Some may identify with all or some of the signs I mentioned. Others may relate to a few or none that I've listed. Our list is not definitive but is only some of the key aspects I’ve chosen. Are you struggling with your sexual identity? Do you think you may be asexual? Trying to figure out what your sexual orientation may be daunting but this listicle can help.
Number one: The lack of sexual attraction
Are your romantic relationships based on sexual attraction? Asexuality refers to a lack of or low level…
I remember pre-adulthood when the number of friends a person had almost determined their self-worth. Or at the very least it felt like it. Like, the more invites you got to go places and stuff like that… the better off you were. And the need for it almost created this desperation — this desperation to belong…
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But I guess when you grow older, at least for me, I realized that persons worth have nothing to do with the number of people they’re surrounded with, or who they’re surrounded with, or how many times a week they hang out with friends. It has nothing to do with anyone else at all. While others may help boost and re-assure you — your sense of self-worth has everything to do with you. And I think realizing that, is one of the most liberating things, because you stop seeking validation externally (which can be…
This is a topic I don’t see a lot of people talk about on the Internet. This is hard for me to talk about because this experience had such an impact on me. You know, I went through a dark period in my life. Because of what happened it’s a really complicated story. It’s not black and white. But again, if I can help somebody out there from sharing these sorts of experiences then it’s all worth it to me.
Some background first a little over a couple of years ago, I moved to Argentina to live with a host family of four for three months. It was an au pair kind of situation where I would help out for 15 hours a week teaching English taking care of the kids in exchange for food a place to live and sleep and the rest of my time free. From my point of view, I’m more than fulfilled my obligations, but I think secretly they wanted me to speak English all the time. But unfortunately, I was there to study Spanish…
There’s this pretty well-known quote that gets thrown around a lot and it’s often attributed to Albert Einstein and it goes. “If you can’t explain it simply, then you don’t understand it well enough”…
Now whether or not Einstein was the person who actually said this, let’s be real he probably wasn’t, it’s still really insightful, and reversing it reveals a pretty powerful piece of study advice. “ If you don’t understand something well…explain it”. I want to dig deeper into that idea and share with you a step-by-step process for doing this, which has been called the Feynman Technique. This technique is named after the physicist who was, in his own right, a great scientist. In fact, back in 1965, he won a Nobel Prize for his work in quantum electrodynamics, which is…
I’ve seen a lot of positive talk about cold showers recently and I saw a guy posted about his experience doing cold showers for a full year on Reddit and asked him for some advice. It’s just a shower. He said. I guess he had a point so I decided to give it a shot.
Why would I do this to myself? Especially when it’s snowing outside. I hate the cold. Well, first of all, many of us not all of us, but many of us lead very comfortable lives in the developed world. I’ll speak for myself here. All of my needs are pretty much always met. I never really have to worry about going hungry or being unsafe and I recognize that many of my ancestors didn’t have access to those sorts of luxuries and many people in the world of today don’t have access to those luxuries. So I do my best…
Three simple steps to bringing up something your partner has done that you don’t like in a way that strengthens instead of weakens your relationship.
All of us, when we meet someone special are gonna have a moment where that person does something we don’t like, and at that moment we are either gonna have a reaction that hurts, or helps our relationship. That destroys or builds. This will depend on the meaning we give to what someone else has done, and the most dangerous meanings tend to be the ones we rush to from a place of insecurity, or fear, or vulnerability. When we think we've been wronged. And when we think we’ve been wronged, we tend to ascribe the worst motive to what…
I think a really good question to ask right now is how do you avoid falling down the rabbit hole with pessimism and worry. What do you do when it feels like everything’s falling apart. It’s an applicable question for all kinds of situations and circumstances while outside of what’s going on right now.
It seems like the world’s going through a collective moment of uncertainty right now with the outbreak of the novel coronavirus or COVID-19. The markets have been taking every kind of public event that has been canceled and people are scared. This is the first time something like this is happening in my adult life but I spent a lot of time thinking about this over the last few days and I came to the conclusion that tt’s not like any of this is new really. I mean, I know it feels like it is and I’m not trying to…
Have you heard of an inner child? In analytical psychology, the term inner child refers to an individual’s child-like aspect. Your inner child is an unconscious part of who you are.
Like everyone else, you were once a child and that piece of you lives inside of you. Your inner child is a psychological reality. That should be taken seriously. When dealing with an unhealthy childhood you may have learned to internalize negativity. After repeatedly being mistreated, you might think you deserve to be treated poorly. In that way, your inner child can become wounded. You might not have gotten over the pain of that event, even if you think you did If any of the following applies to you, you might have a wounded inner child.
- You fear abandonment.
Do…
Since the Industrial Revolution, humans have released over 1.5 trillion tons of carbon dioxide or CO₂, into the Earth’s atmosphere…
In the year 2019, we were still pumping out around 37 billion more. That’s 50 percent more than the year 2000 and almost three times as much as 50 years ago. And it’s not just CO₂, we’re also pumping outgrowing volumes of other greenhouse gases such as methane and nitrous oxide. Combining all of our greenhouse gases, we’re emitting 51 billion tons of carbon dioxide equivalents each year. And emissions keep rising. But they need to get down to zero.
In recent years, the consequences have become more serious and visible. Almost every year breaks some horrible record: We’ve had…
April Phan
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